Obituary of Timothy G. Deary

Timothy G. Deary, 54, of Dudley Southbridge Road, Dudley, MA, died at home on April 26, 2009, surrounded by his beloved wife and family. Tim leaves the love of his life, Kimberly, after 35 years together. He also leaves his sisters, Jane Grochowski and her husband Tom of Webster, Mary Paul and her husband Jimmy of Dudley, Kate Deary of N. Grafton and his brother Mark Deary and his wife Karen of Webster. He leaves his sister-in-law, Debra Deary of Dudley and his much beloved nieces and nephews, especially his godchild, Barbara Deary Robillard of Dudley and his angel, her daughter Rozlyn Rose. He also leaves his uncles, aunts and cousins. Tim leaves his cherished mother-in-law, Ann Peterson of Dudley and Cindy, Danny and Julie, Amy and Mike, Patrick and Erik. He is pre-deceased by his parents, Mary and Francis Deary and his two brothers, Francis "Tucker" Deary and John A. Deary of Dudley. He is also pre-deceased by his father-in-law, Ron Peterson, "his bud". Tim was born in Worcester, MA and graduated from Bartlett High, Class of 1974. He worked as a carpenter for Cutler Associates for 25 years until his illness. Tim was an avid sports fan. He especially enjoyed the Red Sox and going to NASCAR races with his brothers. He was never happier than when he was in his backyard, on his John Deere or his four wheeler, oxygen tanks and all. Tim loved to just sit in his recliner in front of his fireplace,with his beloved dog Maximo at his feet, watching Gene Autry on his big screen. He looked forward to every family party and family trip where his subtle sense of humor and quick wit could always be counted on. We all remember one of his favorite sayings, "Life is tough, but it's tougher when you're stupid". Tim was truly a man's man with old fashioned values and he will be missed every day. Tim was especially proud to have been named 2006 Survivor Ambassador for the American Cancer Society's Relay for Life. Tim was nominated by the staff of Memorial Hospital because of his inspirational fight against cancer. A special thanks to Dr. Vijay Kasturi and his team, Dr. Peter Bagley, Dr. Dennis Murphy, to all who cared for him on South 5 and the VNA of Webster. Their constant support and encouragement throughout his treatment was truly appreciated. Relatives and friends are invited to visit and share your memories of Tim with his family on Sunday, May 10th from 4:00 to 8:00 pm at Bartel Funeral Home, Schofield Avenue in Dudley, MA. A mass will be held the following day, May 11th at 11:00 am at St. Anthony's Church, Dudley, MA. Burial following the mass will be at Waldron Cemetary, Ramshorn Road, Dudley, MA. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the HMH Cancer Support Fund, Harrington Hospital, c/o Social Services Department, 100 South Street, Southbridge, MA, 01550. The program's mission is to lessen the financial burden to cancer patients and their families.